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I am having an issue with a 2002 cavalier. The day time running lites flash 3 times when you put it into gear then the lites stay off. I have to drive with hi-beams on at night to have any headlites at all, I can hear the relay clicking all 3 times so I am almost positive the relay isnt the problem, I also know that their is a module integrated into the instrument cluster for the day time running lites, but no good info. in the Hanes manual. Is their any way to buy pass the day time lites or an easy fix?